Monica is another participant with whom I’d connected via Instagram in September 2016 specifically for the purpose of this project. After she agreed to be involved, we met in person to further discuss the details.
Our plan to meet actually came as a last-minute arrangement since I was already at Ryerson University, where she intended to be within the hour. A transit delay caused her to arrive with only 10 minutes before the start of her day’s first class, leaving us with very little time to chat. But in an unexpected turn of events, a fire alarm was triggered which caused the entire building to evacuate and coincidentally created the time we needed for our discussion.
Part of the reason I extended an invitation to Monica is her height. Standing at 6 feet and 2 inches, she’s one of the tallest women I’ve ever personally met. My suspicion was that she harboured some insecurities about the fact she’s taller than likely most of the people in her life. She was quick to dispel this idea, however, stating during our conversation that she actually wishes she was taller.
One of the hardships she has faced with respect to her height is concerning the behaviour of others towards it. People will often assume she’s not comfortable with being such a tall woman, and will adjust their conduct accordingly. Examples she gave include individuals suggesting ways she can appear shorter, or people being protective when comments are made about her height. In reality, they’re compensating for a feeling within Monica that doesn’t actually exist.